Are You Bored & Scared of The After Sex Awkwardness? Following These Tips Will Ensure That the Next time You Go Down on Her; She Ain’t Letting You Back up!
Intimacy has been one of the earliest pillars of mankind. Not only is being intimate a natural process, but it has so many benefits that one definitely needs intimacy in their life. As natural as this process is, humankind has been so ignorant of it. People don’t want to talk about it. It’s like the class topper’s answer sheet – everyone wants to see but no one actually can. Talking about intimacy and sex has been a taboo in our culture and you as the leading younger generation should be aware of what you should really talk about with your partner. Make her feel comfortable and included by talking openly about these things and who knows, you just might go through the best sex of your life after that!
Ask her what her wildest fantasy is, how she likes to be treated while doing sex, and what is her favourite part.
Sexual Desires, Fantasies, and Fetish
Talking is not boring every time, on the contrary – it can be quite the medium to turn your girl on. As you all know that every human being thinks differently, every human being has their own set of sexual fantasies, desires, or fetishes.
There is a trick here. Unfold these sexual desires very slowly – it’s not a race – there is nothing sexier than your girl knowing more and more about your sexual desires every now and then. Ask her what her wildest fantasy is, how she likes to be treated while doing sex, and what is her favourite part.
You can also include your sexual fetishes. There must be a body part that you like the most, tell her about that. Tell her how much you want her to get into an emotion while doing it. Who knows, you might be dealing with a bondage queen or an Oral lover. It’s all up to you, how do you unravel yourself.
Your past might affect your future and you don’t want that to affect your sex life. Tell her about the things you have done in past – if you have a possessive one.
What Have you Been Through & What are you Going to Do?
We all have past and there is nothing to be ashamed of. We should always be open to what we have been through for a smooth transition toward what we are going to be through. Your past might affect your future and you don’t want that to affect your sex life.
Your previous intimate relationships should teach you what to do or what not to do. Tell her about the things you have done in past – if you have a possessive one, don’t include names or any identity – just the incidents. If you don’t have any experience, be blunt about it, girls like it to be your first time.
Also, telling her about your future intimate desires might just be her type of thing. Tell her all the things that you want to do with her – in a subtle and sexy manner.
Being clear beforehand makes everything easier, and who knows maybe this space brings you closer.
Clear Your Exclusivity Beforehand
Everyone here is one of a kind and everyone wants to explore their bit. Sometimes, your partner may be feeling some things that are not making her comfortable; sexually. Ask her what she wants. Not everyone wants a committed relationship. There is nothing wrong with a fling or a casual relationship. Maybe she wants to see some other people while you two are dating; don’t let that affect your sexual behaviour. Being clear beforehand makes everything easier, and who knows maybe this space brings you closer. If you are about to engage sexually, you should ask if your partner is dating someone or married – just for the sake of it.
Make sure to try her favourite position as she will also feel good and who knows? Doggy might be waiting for you to find it.
Try What Your Partner Likes
As we mentioned before, your girl is way different from you and it’s not mandatory that what she like should be your liking but never stop exploring your sexual areas. Trying what your partner likes may enhance your boundaries and let you speculate even further into yourself.
Maybe you are into missionary but she likes Doggystyle. Make sure to try her favourite position as she will also feel good and who knows? Doggy might be waiting for you to find it. If you like doing sex in night and she is a morning person, try to be in her pants, the first thing in the morning.
Being vocal could bring you closer than before.
Be Vocal About Problems
Being vocal about your sexual problems might just remove that after sex awkwardness that will take over you if you do not pay heed to this issue. Sexual problems are common and not everyone is able to overcome them. Even if you have STDs, you should tell about beforehand.
You don’t want to be that one night to be the most awkward night your girl ever had. They are kind of personal and touchy subjects but trust us, if she really thinks you are the one, she will be with you whatever the case may be. Being vocal could bring you closer than before.