How to get back into dating after a breakup?
Getting back into dating after the end of a relationship can be tough. But worry not. Lana is here with some super awesome ways to get you back into the dating game.
WHO’S SHE?
Age: 27
From: Moscow, Russia
Vital stats: 34-24-35
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“Time heals all wounds,” and the recovery will get better and easier.
1. RECOGNISE YOUR EMOTIONS
It is ok to acknowledge and feel pain (at least to yourself). I find it helpful to confide in someone I trust and respect. They say, “Time heals all wounds,” and the recovery will get better and easier. With time, it might be also healthy to have an honest “exit interview” with your ex, in order to understand WHY it didn’t work, so that you can avoid the same mistakes in the future.
You are going to experience the same emotions very soon, but with a person who is probably a better match for you.
2. GET COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF AGAIN
You are alive, you are healthy, and you are blessed with your family and friends! The world has not ended; it is just that some things were just not meant to be. Remember when you first met your ex how excited and encouraged you felt? Guess what? You are going to experience the same emotions very soon, but with a person who is probably a better match for you (possibly more kind/ or more patient/ or more thoughtful/ or more emotionally mature).
It is common knowledge that a jealous girl can be a better online investigator than a trained FBI agent!
3. ENVISION A FUTURE FULL OF TRUST AND FREE OF DISAPPOINTMENT
In this age of social media, I believe honesty and forthrightness is an underrated commodity. Secrecy and dishonesty have always been trouble and they become increasingly difficult with the visibility of Instagram. It is common knowledge that a jealous girl can be a better online investigator than a trained FBI agent! The transparency the digital world has created obliges those who have been dishonest in the past to choose the higher road in the future.
Free your mind and soul from the weight of the past: there is no way to go back in time.
4. REINVENT YOUR DATING SELF
I don’t know anyone who does not have a “bad breakup story.” A mistake (or two!) is only human, so long as you learn from it, focus on the positive moments of the past and the lessons learned from any negative experiences. Free yourself from blame and accept responsibility for your own actions. Free your mind and soul from the weight of the past: there is no way to go back in time unless you are Marty McFly in the 1985 classic film “Back to the Future.” Enjoy the present by treating yourself to a new hobby like learning a new language or sport, or taking music lessons. Embrace the art of adventure and plan a trip to somewhere you will enjoy. Invest in yourself and your positive energy will radiate outward to all who encounter you, including your new mate.
