Sexperts: got a dirty question to ask? Fire away!
Have an under-the-sheets, behind closed doors, sex dilemma you don’t know who to ask? Make way for our in house sex guru, Dr Mojo, who would love to clear your doubts… the FHM way!
I am in love with butt sex and have been active in this department for a few years now. Now that I have a new GF and that we have just started to warm things up in the sack, I was wondering how much time before I can pop the question to try the backdoor?
– Advait Soman, Gurgaon
Have you heard of the term that you gotta crawl before you can learn how to walk? Slow and steady, bud… slow and steady. Give her time to get comfortable around you first, the idea of sex… let her find what she likes and what she wants to tone down a little… maybe then. And then also this is something you have to discuss and thrash out over coffee to know each other’s boundaries and then take to bed. You got the flow, didn’t you?
I have been happily married for more than ten years and have a rocking sex life. The thing is that every now and then I get a pang to beat my monkey! The other day my wife walked in on me when I was wanking off. And now she thinks that I am not happy with our sex life and thus I love getting off on my own. What do I do? Is that really the reason?
– Ritwik Sharma, Pune
Firstly, ouch! Then comes my question: How about locking the door through this ‘very private’ performance? Okay seriously… masturbating is one of the healthiest thing one can do. There are times when we just want a release (I couldn’t think of a better word!) and rather than getting the partner in the mood, we just feel like giving ourselves a hand! Nothing to worry about. Talk to wifey and tell her that this has no bearing on your sex life. In fact, married women do it just as often. Seriously!
My girl and I have been together for more than a year and the sex is rocking! However, as much as I love going down on her, she is not at all into reciprocating in this department. Even on rare occasions, when she has, it has been more out of obligation and not really wanting to do it. And that gets me awkward. Any sure shot way to make her love it enough to dig it?
– Supreet Roy, Mumbai
Do we really need to spell it out? Okay here goes… each one of us has a distinct sexual personality. What flies with one need not jive with another. Just because you love finding heaven with your tongue doesn’t mean that she should worship your tool with her mouth. Kapish? The idea of a memorable romp session is to play with each other’s comfort zones. She is not into it. Period. Leave it at that, mate.
I have been dating this babe for about three months and we totally dig each other. And just for this reason we wanted to take things slow and it was till a couple of weeks back that we had not attempted sex at all. But here comes the terrible part. She has this real weird smell in her private parts that is hard to ignore. It is a bloody big turn off for me! Please help!
– Deepak Tyagi, Bhopal
Stop sounding boorish and hear me out. All women, much like men, have a distinct fragrance/smell that is characteristic of them. Some have it subtle but some have it strong. This is just how nature books were written. However, since it’s bothering you to such an extent, speak to her (no finger pointing. Time to play a gentleman). There are ointments and lotions available that live to serve just this purpose. So don’t worry… it’s not the end of the world as you know it.
From the July 2015 issue of FHM India.
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