Supercharge Your Chat: Neil Strauss's Ring Routine
Can you really pull a girl just by talking about her fingers? Top author and pick-up artist Neil Strauss explains his ring routine and seven steps to wow women.
Top author and pick-up artist Neil Strauss explains how to wow women.
Neil Strauss’s ring routine
Can you really pull a girl just by talking about her fingers? Yes, says Neil Strauss. Start by casually noticing the finger she wears a ring on. Then explain that the finger you choose to wear a ring on reflects your personality because in ancient Greece people wore rings to honour particular gods…
The Thumb
Poseidon, god of the sea. He was very independent, the only god who didn’t live on Mount Olympus. And the thumb stands apart from the other fingers. So people with thumb rings are independent thinkers.
The Index Finger
Zeus, king of the gods. It represents power and dominance, so people who wear a ring on this finger take charge.
The Middle Finger
Dionysus, the god of wine and partying. He liked to free people from their inhibitions. A ring there means you’re someone who doesn’t care what others think.
The Ring Finger
Aphrodite, goddess of love – that’s supposedly why we wear wedding rings on that finger. Interestingly, it’s the only finger that has a vein that goes straight to the heart without branching off.
The Pinky
Aries, god of war. That’s why you see mobsters wearing pinky rings. It represents conflict.
No Rings
People who didn’t wear rings were aligned with Hermes, who was the messenger of the gods. He represented exotic travel and wealth. People with no rings tend to be open-minded and enjoy travel.
Seven steps to wow her
1. Don’t put yourself down
Self-deprecation can be funny in the right circumstance, but this isn’t that circumstance. Women like men who are confident.
2. Get her talking
No one scores by talking their conquest into submission, so your first goal is to get her engaged in the conversation. Relationship queries work well. Say you need a woman’s take on something. Tell her that, ‘a male mate of yours reckons that when a woman leaves a man it’s always the man’s fault, but you think that’s extreme’. 90% of the time she’ll think about it and answer; 10% of the time she’ll brush it off, but whatever she does…
3. Challenge her
Mocking her is important as it shows you’re not treating her as special. So gently make fun of whatever her response is, as it will put her on the back foot and actively demonstrate you are unimpressed with her, something she will not be used to.
4. Demonstrate value
This is key. You need to raise yourself above the other guys in the bar by doing something that makes you seem special. I call this demonstrating value and it stems from the fact a lot of hot girls have a void inside them, because they think people just talk to them because of their looks. Fill this void by ‘talking to the girl inside’ and teaching her something spiritual about herself. The simplest one is the ring finger routine, which tells you what having a ring on different fingers means and what it says about people’s personalities (see panel right).
5. Make the move on a cliffhanger
At some point you’re going to have to ‘go somewhere quieter’, but when you do you need to a) do it in the middle of a story, as this cliffhanger will make it seem natural for her to come with you, and b) emphasise that it’s only going to be a couple of minutes, so it feels like a no-lose thing for her to do.
6. Stage a takeaway
This comes after you’ve separated her from her friends. Tell your story, then notice a friend, “Who’ll kill you if you don’t say ‘hi’.” It seems risky, but works because it means you leave her on her own, which makes her feel a little lost, and it shows you’re confident enough to leave her.
7. And finally, seed your next location
Desperate men lunge in during the first meeting, successful men seed in where they are going next and how great it is. Go on about how fantastic the next place you are going to is, but crucially don’t invite her straightaway. Instead change the conversation, then when you are about to leave say, “You know what, I think you’d enjoy this place too. Maybe you should join us there.”
From the December 2010 issue of FHM India.
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