Got a Dirty Question? Dr. Mojo Answers

Have an under-the-sheet, behind closed doors, sex dilemma you don’t know who to ask? Our in-house guru, Dr Mojo is back to clear your doubts.. the FHM way!

Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, I drift away in my thoughts and start thinking about other things. It’s something that I cannot control. This often spoils my boyfriend’s mood and we end up fighting. He thinks I don’t enjoy the sex. How do I make sure that I am always in the mood?

Dr Mojo: I think you are seriously not interested in having sex with him. Is the sex boring, perhaps? Maybe you could try changing the routine. Role playing is known to help many couples. Sometimes, talking to each other also helps in keeping the sex engaging for both the partners. Take your pick! If nothing else works, dump him. You need someone who doesn’t make your drift apart!

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– Shruti Saxena (Pune)

How do I tell my husband that I no longer find sex pleasurable with him? It’s difficult for me to orgasm. What’s the way out for me?

Dr Mojo: Dear lady, communication is the best way to get your long-lost orgasm back. If you want your sex life to be better, then please for good sex’s sake tell him, unless you are planning to look for the pleasure from somebody else or ditch him for his poor performance. Although, it’s becoming a common problem amongst men, there is a way out of this for men who take longer love acts seriously. All I can say to you is take it up with him and seek an explanation. You deserve it.

– Palak Sen (Kolkata)

I have been befuddled by questions about orgasm. I am often confused whether I have reached the extreme point whenever I am in the act together with my boyfriend. I can’t really tell if it’s what’s called an orgasm, or am I yet to reach that zenith point?

Dr Mojo: Well, you are not alone in wondering whether you really had an orgasm. To be honest, it can be really hard for many women to orgasm. Hence, a lot of them do not even know what exactly it is like to orgasm. I would suggest you watch some videos about female orgasms and educate yourself. Honestly, if you don’t know what it feels like, you might not have had an orgasm yet!

– Shobha Saxena (Rohtak)

My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship for five months now because of the pandemic. It’s becoming difficult for us to keep the connection alive without sexual intercourse. I am afraid our relationship might eventually die down. What do I do? Help!

Dr Mojo: Well, good news; there are many ways to keep the titillation alive even when you are apart! Have you tried sexting? Try texting your boyfriend as if you are actually having sex with him. Maybe, both of you guys can orgasm yourself while stimulating each other through your words. Trust me, you haven’t yet tried the power of words. Plus, you guys could get on video calls (with consent and make sure in a private space) if you trust each other. Maybe dress up in your favorite satin slips, put some make up on. What else are the cosmetics for, after all?

– Anjana Yadav (Lucknow)

I am in a weird situation. I want to try new positions with my girlfriend that I have seen in some porn videos. My friends keep talking about how interesting it is to try these new things. However, every time I broach the subject to my girlfriend, she brushes them off. She says she’s okay with what we have. I feel like we could make our sex life far more interesting. How do I make her try new things without offending her?

Dr Mojo: This is a bit tricky. First, you should know that the positions that they show in porn videos are unreal. But, that doesn’t mean you should not try anything new with your girlfriend. In fact, trying new things definitely helps in keeping your sex life alive and keeps your relationship from getting boring. Maybe you should not talk to her about what your friends are trying or about porn. Maybe, you could try focusing on her pleasures. Ask her how she wants to orgasm. She might open up a little. Good luck!

– Sharik Khan (Hyderabad)

From the August 2020 issue of FHM India.