Got a question to ask? Fire away! Dr Mojo, November 2018
Dr Mojo on not enjoying casual sex, a one-night stand who is marrying your best friend, a wife who has gone cold, attraction to taken people and switching office flings.
No question is kinkier, weirder or bolder than Dr Mojo. And he is here to help.
Why so serious?
I have a problem having casual sex. I see my friends getting on with it but somehow I always find it hard to go for. I want to have a stimulating conversation before I can get physical. Am I sapiosexual or just a moron?
— Aseem Chauhan, Bhopal
Tell you what mate. I hate over thinkers. Have the kind of sex that makes you feel good. Period. If you don’t like casual sex, get a girlfriend and have serious sex. I get that your friends, dating apps and TV shows make you aspire to be a no strings attached player, but if that’s not your scene, then opt out. The real morons are people who are not in touch with their own needs. Enjoy long conversations and dates and whatever else rocks your boat.
A night to forget
Last year I had one night stand with a stranger on a train. It was incredible. But we decided to never get in touch. Turns out she is getting married to my best friend now and I am the best man for his wedding. I am so tempted. Should I approach her?
— Joseph Diaz, Goa
You had the cookie… now forget it.
Realise that it was a no strings attached fling for both parties. If neither of you got in touch then, there is no point in giving in to temptation now. Attend the wedding like a gentleman and while wishing the bride, pretend like nothing ever happened. She will respect you for it and all parties can get on with their lives. And channel your energy into hitting on bridesmaids and other women at the wedding.
No satisfaction
Before I get married, my wife and I were sexually very compatible. We experimented a lot. But now she resists and tells me to ‘grow up’. What’s wrong?
— Arnav Gupta, Chandigarh
Let’s get this straight… for good sex you need to create attraction. Women need to feel attractive and desirable and your wife isn’t feeling the tingles. Start working out, go on dates and do things that you did before getting married. Put her pleasure first and give her erotic massages. Introduce sex toys and learn some new sex positions. Your wife needs some pampering and attention in order to bring back the spark.
Risky business
Since I was a teenager, I always found myself attracted towards other people’s boyfriends or spouses. The quirk is becoming risqué. I am losing friends because of my promiscuity.
— Ravinder Kumar, Delhi
Let’s be honest mate, you have a problem and you need help. Stop being such a nuisance to people around yourself and go to a good therapist. That way, you will have some chance of having a healthy relationship with yourself and with others.
Professional playboy
I was having an affair with my office colleague. Nothing serious just a fling. It was going well until another hot girl joined office. I am attracted towards her now. Is it going to be too awkward switching gears? Please help!
— Randeep Singh, Mumbai
Oh my…we have an office Casanova in the house. Well you must tread cautiously when it comes to office dames. People in office are mostly bored and there’s nothing more interesting than the activities of the office flirt. Approach the hot girl but make sure that your former flame does not get a whiff of the situation. Remember, the best gear switches are smooth and seamless. And finally, keep your personal business so secretive that you would make an undercover agent proud.
From the November 2018 issue of FHM India.
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