No Seconds, Please: Dr. Mojo Answers

No Seconds, Please

Most of my one night stands in the past have turned into trying to wriggle out of a second date( read second night stand). What can I do to make sure that man doesn’t call me back? I do not mind being friends with them though!

– Anandita Dutta, Kolkata

My lady, I am beginning to sense a pattern here. Sometimes one needs to take preventive medicine to avoid discomfort. While a one night stand is supposed to be spontaneous, there is no reason you can not take out a few minutes to convey your expectations. Make it clear to your partner that whatever is happening, is a one-time thing. Now my advice on the whole ‘being friends’ thing us to wait it out. Having a friendly meeting withsomeone you boned just last week can get awkward. Give the other person some time and space after the incident and when the dust has settled you can give friendship a shot.

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Still Hung Up

I had a really bad break up sometime back, and had sworn off of dating again. However, the girl that I had a rebound with looks exactly the same as my ex. Maybe that was the reason why I went with her. But now, I miss my ex and cannot seem to get over her. Please help!

– Rohan Raj, Darjeeling

You were right about the fact that getting under somone else is the best way to get over someone but your choice of rebound was questionable. Time for you to wind down a bit a and process your grief. It seems you are carrying trauma from your past relationship. That is never the way to go forward. Do not go into battle without healing your old wounds.

Prioritise, Man!

My girlfriend is a sports-hater. She makes sure that I miss mst important matches, across sports genre. But I love her nonetheless. I have come up with a plan. She had a crush on my brother in high school. Should I send her on a mock date with him, or is it too extreme ?

– Harish Sharma, New Delhi

That’s a great plan but only if you are in high school! If you are agrown man thn stop avoiding your prblems and confront them head on. Explain to your girlfriend that you need some down time during the day to watch sports and encourage her to use that time to pursue her own hobbies. Your relationship will be better and you will not have to spend your valuable time planning ridiculous mock date. And in case you are binge watching sportsfor too long t the cpst of your relationship then don’t be surprised when you girlfriends ends up going on a real with someone else. PROFESSIONAL PLAYBOY

Ladies’ Man

I was having an affair with my office colleague. Nothing serious, just a fling. It was going well until another hot girl joined the office. I am attracted towards her now. Is it going to be too awkward switching gears? Please help!

– Pranav Shukla, Lucknow

Oh my…we have an office Casanova in the house. Well you must tread cautiously when it comes to office dames. People in office are mostly bored and there’s nothing more interesting than the activities of the office flirt. Approach the hot girl but make sure that your former flame does not get a whiff of the situation. And finally keep your personal business so secretive that you would make an undercover agent proud.

Forbidden Fruit

I am not into younger boys but have recently met someone several years younger, who I find sexually attractive. Is succumbing to my desire a bad idea?

– Shafali Sinha, Delhi

As a good doctor, I always recommend the best medicines. Now in matters of seduction, one must always go with their gut feeling. A virile young boy is sure to get you off your rockers. Give in to temptation and enjoy the experience to the fullest. And hey! Check if they are above the legal age.

From the September 2020 issue of FHM India.