Nothing is as misunderstood as BDSM but it is equally important to learn and therefore here is everything you need to know about it with some tips to try as a Beginner!
“Make sure she forgets her name, while she is busy moaning yours.” When I name movies like 365 days, 50 Shades Of Grey, & Addicted, one term that pops up is BDSM. We have heard so much about it and often people associate BDSM with kink, which is not entirely true as sometimes it doesn’t have to involve sex at all, “the mental connotations of some acts are more of a turn-on.”
Let’s just first understand the concept of Bondage Sex, BDSM is a short term that splits into the group of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism, all referring to sexual behaviors. However, always remember that consent is the key to any sexual activity performed mutually even if BDSM. Some examples to lay out when speaking of BDSM can be, putting a dog chain around their neck, blindfolds, handcuffs, sexual toys, spanking, and so on.
There are other spectrums of BDSM activities. Before you enjoy it is crucial to research thoroughly and practice the same responsibly. Well, that is a topic for some other day but this time around we have brought some tips for beginners if they’re getting into BDSM or want to get started.
1. Setting Boundaries
This is the first and foremost, the rule when it comes to sex. Setting out boundaries and respecting what your partner doesn’t want. Being on the same page for both partners is the key. The best way to know about turn on and turn-offs are by communicating. You can also keep some safe words for when to stop & more.
2. Blindfolds, Handcuffs, or Tying Up With Ropes
To build tension as well as excitement adding sensory & movement deprivation tools like blindfolds and ropes can intense the sex. Teasing can also heighten the urge to penetrate and create stimulation. Talking dirty in the ear or kissing all over the body can also create curiosity for what’s next. Lay down the tying material you’re using flat against the skin so that it doesn’t collect and threaten to cut off circulation. Remember, reticence is the crux here.
3. Orgasm Control
This is one tip that can always keep the sex spark alive. Basically, bringing someone near to an orgasm and then leaving it abruptly. It is also known as edging if done to a person with a penis. Well, there isn’t much to say, except delayed gratification can make the result that much sweeter.
4. Using Massage Candles
You can drizzle hot massage wax on the body of your partner for erotic massages, it is another area that stimulates penetration mind-numbingly. While at it you can also include role play as a massage therapist and client which is again fun and different. Make sure to use sex-specific candles and not what you picked from grocery stores!
