How To Be The Alpha Male

SHIV KHERA

“It is high time that people took a stand; those who are indifferent to injustice are as much to blame as the perpetrators. We have to become responsible, we cannot ignore our neighbor's plight, we must get involved.''

A clear distinction between detached action and indifferent noninvolvement -we all need to note our social responsibility alongside our personal duties. Discipline is high on agenda of self-development, as are self-esteem and a winner's attitude. Winners see the potential; losers see the past. Winners see the gain; losers see the pain. The winner is always part of the answer; the loser is always a part of the problem.

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In order to get the winning edge, we need to strive for excellence, not perfection. Striving for perfection is neurotic, striving for excellence is progress. Knowing you have done a job well and have achieved your objective. Success is not measured by our position in life but by the obstacles we overcame to get there. People who have overcome obstacles are more secure than those who have never faced them.

DEBASHIS CHATTERJEE

Personality has become a contest of packaging. At the Harvard University's Kennedy School of Government, where I taught leadership, I learnt that the presidency in the USA is more often than not won by the best performance on television! This leaves young minds with a great sense of image consciousness.

I see the Self as the central organizing principle of personality. By 'Self' I mean the flow of intelligence that shapes our identity from moment to moment. The Self is the experiencer behind all our experiences. What I am experiencing today, as 'I' or 'me' is not the end of the story about my personality. My personality is what I am + what I would be if I continue to be what I am + what I should be. So there is hope if we pay simple attention to what I am when I am jealous and then what I am when I am generous. Before we attempt to win friends and influence people let us influence ourselves bit by bit.By being attentive to my thoughts, movements and behavior from time to time. Just to have a date with oneself everyday is the most enchanting way to develop personality that I know of.

Appearances may be deceptive but they are powerful. The 'cowboy model' of the personality with all its polish and mannerism holds sway among younger generations, even if temporarily. Yet, the world searches for something deeper. I have reasons to believe that the world will eventually look to India for a comprehensive and fulfilling adventure of the human experience characterized by truth (sat), consciousness (chit) and bliss (ananda).

We may take failure as fate or a feedback. The blow of a hammer may break a glass but will forge iron. We have to develop both the resilience of a rock and the fluidity of water if we want to develop

ARINDUM CHAUDHARI

Take all that is good (and bad) in our culture and make it work for our success. These are tolerance, patience, strong family values and a value for growth opportunities. The byproducts of the same good qualities are complacency and its ugly cousin, corruption.

The reason our corporate managers (bar a few) fail to deliver the goods in terms of growth and global competition has been our failure to develop an indigenous management style: a style that revolves around our own cultural roots and upbringing.'' The exceptions are those corporate houses that take their Indian-ness seriously and make it work with highly visible, profitable and positive results.

The Bhagavad Gita is a golden repository of universal wisdom that we bind in a red cloth and worship, instead of reading and practicing its teachings. But as expatriates, it is only our culture that we carry as our badge of honor. We cannot boast of 'made in India' products in the global marketplace. It is time we changed this by a change in our attitudes.

From the January 2011 issue of FHM India.