Ever fallen for someone who only existed in your head? Yeah, same. Let’s talk about the “one-sided fantasy” trap—where expectations ruin love before it even starts.
So, you met someone. Maybe they texted back fast. Maybe they had good music taste (bonus points if they sent you a playlist). Maybe they called you “love” once, and suddenly, you were in a whole relationship in your head.
Been there? Yeah, same.
But here’s the thing: Did you fall for them or the idea of them?
Expectation vs. Reality: A Love Story
We live in a generation where people crave love but don’t understand it. The minute someone shows the tiniest bit of affection, we’re all in planning future dates, imagining late-night deep talks, and picturing how they’d look in wedding photos (don’t lie, you’ve done it).
And that’s where it all goes so wrong.
Because suddenly, they say something out of character or rather, out of your fantasy version of them. Maybe they take five hours to reply, or they don’t say “good morning” one day. And boom, your whole world shakes. The illusion cracks. Reality sets in.
You weren’t in love with them, you were in love with the version of them you created.
The Fix? Adjustments, Not Alterations
Real relationships aren’t curated playlists or dreamy texts at 2 AM. They’re real—filled with quirks, flaws, and sometimes, annoying habits (yes, even the good ones chew loudly).
You’ll need to adjust, but here’s the key: Not all adjustments are worth making. If something truly bothers you, talk about it. But don’t bottle things up until your emotional volcano erupts into a full-blown fight. If they don’t change, ask yourself: Can I live with this forever? Am I expecting them to change into someone they’re not?
If the answers don’t sit well with you, maybe they aren’t the problem—your expectations are.
Falling for Who They Really Are
In a world where people are quick to leave over one inconvenience, here are my two cents: Stay. See them for who they are, not who you want them to be. Love isn’t about sculpting someone into your dream partner. It’s about holding on, even when it’s not perfect, especially when it’s messy, even when they forget to text back but still hold you tighter than you expected.
So, next time you catch yourself romanticizing someone before they’ve even earned that role, pause. Take a step back. And maybe, just maybe, let love happen instead of forcing it into a fantasy.
